Thankful

Last year, I spent Thanksgiving day in a hospital room with my mother and sister, keeping each other company and glued together as best we could, literally waiting for my father to take his last breath. In a way, at that time, I was thankful that he wouldn't suffer the way he would have had he been able to ride out the cancer longer. The stroke/coma combination was supposedly "easier" on him in the long run. I'll never know if that is true, but I would like to think it is. Regardless, it wasn't exactly the way I wanted to make Thanksgiving holidays.

This is the first Thanksgiving without my dad. Granted, since I got married, we celebrated Thanksgiving with my in-laws and Christmas with my parents, so it had been a few years since I sat down and had a turkey dinner with my dad. But there is a difference between not being in the same house and simply not being.


This photo was taken in 1980, the year my little sister was born. It was in my aunt & uncle/cousins' home in Camden, NY. I think it must have been at Thanksgiving. Being that it is a Thanksgiving memory, I'd certainly prefer to have it be one in the forefront on my mind over last year's memories. I do remember that little red polka-dotted dress. I had a matching one for my doll. I'd be willing to bet that at least one of them is still floating around my mom's house somewhere.


This has been a rough week. Almost as rough as this same week last year, just different. Holidays tend to be stressful, chaotic, nostalgic. Then life adds this memory-of-a-decease-loved-one curve ball at you, and it's a wonder people don't wind up sedated for long periods of time. Really.

On our way down to my in-laws' house yesterday morning, I nearly had my husband drop me off at the Warrensburg exit on the Thruway so I could call my sister and have her come get me. I wasn't certain I could function with my other family. All I really wanted to do was curl up at my mom's house and cry. It was all I could do to keep it together and not be a blubbering mess in front of my kids. But a nap and fresh perspective kept me from completely falling apart. I made it through the day with a lot of choked back tears, but not too many that actually fell.

I recognize that as much as life has crappy moments, and even at the worst times, there are always things to be thankful for. There are people out there who are much less fortunate and/or lucky, and life could be so much worse--I know that. I am truly thankful for my family & friends with their love & support and blessed to have my husband and our four happy, healthy children.